About Me
Are you tired of repeating the same relationship cycles? Do you find yourself feeling misunderstood or walking away from conversations frustrated?
I understand that feeling deeply. My expertise in communication wasn't found in a textbook—it was forged in two demanding crucibles: 30 years in corporate management and a profound, personal journey through three marriages.
The Professional Foundation: From Manager to Master Communicator
For three decades, I worked at manager level in Sales and Marketing. In this field, communication isn't optional; it's the fundamental engine of success. I learned how to read non-verbal cues, tailor messages for maximum impact, negotiate complex deals, and manage team breakdowns. I know first-hand the power of sharp, strategic communication in achieving external goals.
But I also realized something critical: the complex skills required to close a multi-million-pound deal are the exact same skills needed to close the emotional gap with a partner or child.
The Personal Laboratory: Understanding Deep Difference
At 50, I am transparent about having navigated three marriages and two divorces. These experiences were not failures; they were a demanding, hard-earned education. I discovered that communication failure often stems from a profound misunderstanding of how fundamentally different our partners are, particularly in how they manage emotion and conflict.
This journey specifically taught me about the nuanced dynamics involved when a partner has been shaped by parents with narcissistic tendencies. I learned the critical importance of not just understanding their often complex and unmet needs, but also establishing and holding firm on healthy boundaries to protect my own well-being and space. The successful transition in my own life came when I committed to two things:
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Understanding my own communication style (the language I project).
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Developing a sophisticated radar for the relational dynamics and needs of those around me.
Coaching Authority & Training
My lived experience is fortified by intensive professional training. I am currently in my third year of study as a Transactional Analyst Therapeutic Counsellor. This academic framework provides me with the deep, specialized understanding to instantly map out relationship patterns and give you actionable strategies for change.
Important Boundary: Coaching, Not Therapy. While my background gives me unique insight, my offering to you is strictly Life Coaching. We focus on forward-moving action, practical skills, guidance, and challenging you to change. We will not spend time analyzing "where it all came from" in a therapeutic frame, but rather focus on empowering you to master your interactions starting today.